How to Become a Biblical Woman
What is a biblical woman?
As most people would guess, the most lengthy discussion of biblical women and their specific roles is found in Proverbs 31. The woman described in this passage sets the standard high in all facets of life. Providing for the daily needs of her family, strengthening and clothing herself well, and even reaching outside of the home to help the poor and make wise investments.
From a character perspective, Titus 2:3-5 explains that women primarily have the role of loving their families and their homes with a good attitude. 1 Peter 3:1-6 further details the character of women as quiet and meek. The calling for godly womanhood is so valuable, it can even win unbelieving husbands because it is such an example of service and surrender to the needs of others and, ultimately, to Christ.
Apart from the specifics listed for womanly roles, being a biblical Christian involves living surrendered to the Holy Spirit every day, putting on the whole armor of God, and fighting the battle for truth and obedience in our lives.
Steps to becoME a biblical woman
- If you haven’t already, put your faith and trust in Jesus Christ as your only hope for eternal life. Romans 10:13 says, “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” You cannot be a biblical woman without the help of the Holy Spirit.
- Surrender your heart fully to God. Ask Him to show you all the areas of your life that don’t please Him. Whether it be relationships, idols, finances, etc. You want your heart to be completely clean before God. It’s the only way to be the best wife and mother you can be.
- Study Proverbs 31 , Titus 2, and 1 Peter 3 and determine the priorities God has for women.
- Make a practical plan for living out those priorities. You may have to cut back on work, projects, or hobbies. Be willing to surrender whatever God asks you to.
- Begin regular bible study and prayer time. Each day, ask the Lord to fill you with the Holy Spirit and surrender your day’s tasks to Him. Be present in each step He asks you to take. “A man’s heart deviseth his way: but the Lord directeth his steps.” Proverbs 16:9
My journey to biblical womanhood
Dreaming of the day
Becoming a biblical woman has pretty much always at least been on my radar. I grew up in a Christian home and came to know Jesus as my Savior at a young age. From my earliest memory, I always knew I wanted to be a wife and a mom. I wanted to have a family that I took care of.
I’ve pretty much always been a perfectionist and wanted to succeed, especially in school. So I was the kid that cried over Bs and had meltdowns over homework I forgot to do. In early high school I’d decided that I was going to study to be a surgeon, specifically after I’d had a major surgery on my back for scoliosis in eighth grade. I worked hard, got into a good school, and started classes at college.
I think it was actually my very first day in an introductory class for the college of science that I decided I hated it. To be honest, I kind of always hated school between the drama of peers and the stress I put on myself. But this class took the cake.
For once, I considered doing something other than muscling through and started looking into other majors. I wound up in an Animal Science degree and while I didn’t immediately give up the possibility of further study after a bachelor’s degree, I basically knew I’d need to completely pivot my plans.
Time for a change
Then, I met him. Avery was funny, lighthearted, and just didn’t take things too seriously. Not in a lazy sense, but just in a peaceful sort of way. I knew pretty quickly that the desires I’d had a young age were being confirmed through the relationship that was forming. But I knew I didn’t want to juggle a family and a career. That’s what would make me a biblical woman, right?
So I gave up aspirations for further study after college and I got some peace, but just surrendering to God’s call on my life to fully embrace biblical womanhood wasn’t enough to experience the peace that my soon-to-be husband waltzed through life with. He had something stronger; something deeper. In fact, in spite of my efforts to give up lofty career goals, the mental battle for peace waged even stronger. I struggled with anxiety and corresponding health challenges for about two years after being married.
Overhauling my life
Somewhere along the way, I started to realize that it wasn’t just my circumstances that needed to change. I needed an internal makeover if I wanted to have what my husband had and become a biblical woman. So, I began a discipleship course at my church and started allowing God to open all the doors of my heart. What did I find? A big, fat, monster sized idol called control.
I wanted to control everything – my health, my relationships, my future, all of it. So, one by one, God started cleaning out those areas of my life. I made some progress. There was less anxiety about my health especially. I was learning to let go of control. It was awesome! Then we had our first baby. I had it all planned out and was ready to train her well and make sure she always did the right thing. She was so unhappy and I was so anxious.
After a lengthy battle to keep my milk supply, it finally clicked. My plans were never measuring up. They were so stressful and at the end of the day, the jury was always out on whether things would end up working out the way I’d planned.
Fully surrendering
God had opened my eyes and I was experiencing so much peace as a mother and continuing to grow in other areas of life. Boom! Before I knew it, I was pregnant again. I was excited to redeem myself more than anything. I was going to let my new baby just do her thing and allow God to lead me as her mom.
But the journey was hard. Motherhood was hard. I started to feel like I was working myself to death just being pregnant and having a toddler. Did anyone else feel the way I was feeling? Was I really living as a biblical woman? How in the world would I manage 2 under 2? It dawned on me that maybe I was the problem. Maybe, like most struggles in my life, God was trying to tell me to let Him take the wheel. Maybe I needed to surrender a little more.
I started to see that I was so caught up in my to-do list and my plans that I would often see her as the hindrance to my success. Something needed to change. I wanted my children to remember me as a mom that was fun and interested; not distant and busy. That was the whole reason I’d dropped the career in the first place!
So I had my second daughter and began each day with the goal of having fun and being present, allowing God to determine how much I was able to accomplish outside of being a great mom. Although I’d felt progress mentally, physically, and spiritually throughout my entire journey to biblical womanhood, nothing can compare to the joy, peace, and rest I experienced each day that I stayed fully surrendered to the Lord’s will for that day.
Finding rest
I began to feel complete healing and although I am far from perfect today, I am so thankful for the restorative God has done in my life. I want to continue to grow in grace, fully embracing God’s plan for my life. Biblical womanhood isn’t just about being at home instead of at work. Being a biblical woman is about giving yourself wholly to God and allowing Him to impact your family through whatever He’s called you to.
I don’t just want to be present for my family, I want to be PRESENT. I want to leave a legacy as a biblical woman, fully surrendered to God in every area of life and allowing Him to work the vision I have for my home.
“Delight thyself also in the Lord: and He shall give thee the desires of thine heart. Commit thy way unto the Lord; trust also in Him; and He shall bring it to pass.” Psalm 37:4-5
Follow along with me to learn more about what biblical womanhood has looked like practically in many areas of my motherhood and homemaking!
